Month: June 2019

What do we think about when we hear the word “Freedom ” being spoken? What goes through our minds when we read about it? Do we experience joy (as if a loved one has been freed ) , or sorrow or fear ( as if a dangerous criminal has escaped , thus having his freedom). In the past, and even up to today, countless lives have been lost with nations and countries trying to attain that , fighting each other. Some even use that word as an excuse for personal gain! We should always remember the unsung heroes of freedom….some of whom we will never hear about. Some smaller countries which were governed externally even attained their independence…their freedom . We only have to reflect on History to decide whether this was a fruitful venture. We should not forget the neverending protests…all in the name of freedom. These protesters face real danger when doing that….rain, the unrelenting heat , and even attacks from unknown sources….but never surrendered! In our young days, were we given that freedom to choose , or was there too much parental control or domination? Would our lives have been different if we had chosen different paths? Who knows? Emotional freedom is an essential nutrient in our wellbeing . We should choose how to live our lives….either by being a menace or a credit to society. We should also remember that by choosing to be a menace, we may lose our freedom. Wouldn’t you rather soar like an eagle, enjoying the breathtaking view of Freedom , than to be chained by the shackles of your impoverished mind?

If anyone says that he/she is not missing someone, that is untrue! They’re just fooling themselves. As long as we are alive, there is a loved one who has gone away. That is life…that is love…that is lost..that is missing someone! Sometimes you love someone who has gone away willingly, maybe because things weren’t working out properly. Maybe a loved one has passed away, because of sickness or an accident. But, regardless of the reason, your heart bleeds for them. Your nights are long…your days are short..your mind is immobilized! For you, the world has stopped turning, ..there is neither future nor past….only sadness..only anguish..only pain! At times, your memory tries to trick you into believing that the lost loved one is standing beside or in front of you! Realization then kicks in, and the pain and suffering start all over again! Some people resort to drinking, ..some become traumatized because of this! Letting go of someone you love is so heartbreaking that you have to experience it to understand what those who are left behind are going through . The best consolation is that some day , you will meet each other again, physically or spiritually! But in the meantime, what is there to do? What can we do…cry our life away….hide in a liquor bottle…face the world with a smile ( but what is there to smile about when we are being suffocated and drowned by tears) ? Do we believe people when they say that Time heals all wounds ? Aren’t they forgetting that the scars still remain? Maybe we just have to live with the pain until we can feel no more…until we can breathe no more! !

The word PROMISE is supposed to be sacred , but many people use it very loosely! “I will get you that for your birthday, I promise..I will be back, I promise..I will never do it again, I promise. “. After all is said and done , still those promises were never kept! Please excuse those who have neither reasoning nor understanding because both depend on their level of education. .of intelligence! So the words which stumble out of their mouths were not properly nourished by the food of Wisdom! So what’s the use of inserting that word when you’re saying something? Keeping a promise defines who you are…sometimes the other person may forget what you said, but for you, it is something that you have to keep….your word..your promise! The people to whom you made your promise may be looking forward to your keeping it, but little do they realize your true intentions….to keep or not to keep..that is the question! Some will remind you of it (which they shouldn’t have to do) , others may just let it go, because , in the first place, they never believed you! Marriage is also a promise! After a marriage, some people will stay together for years, or until they pass away, while others may break up , separate or divorce just after a few years….totally forgetting their promise….in sickness or in health, ’til death do us part. How about we consider those couples who complete the full journey? What keeps them together …..what kept them together for so long? Was it love, understanding, mutual respect, honesty or something else or all of the above mentioned ? Or could it just may have been something extremely simple…like A PROMISE??

Oh, what beautiful memories we start to create when we first fall in love. It is like a bud blooming overnight into a fantastic flower with its hypnotic scent…..like a metamorphosis, from a larva to a wonderful butterfly! We have now opened our hearts to deeper feelings ( even though it may just be an infatuation) , but for us, it is an incredible feeling ..a new awakening to a world filled with romance! We only have eyes for each other..we have our own world..a garden filled with roses. We are so happy in each other’s company, and , when we are apart, we still think of each other , sometimes with jealousy. We are never afraid to show our love in public because , as far as we are concerned, we are made for each other. Two has become one. That is our destiny! But with all new love awakening, there is discord….the first is that green eyed monster named Jealousy! As the years go by, we are more in control of our love feelings..if it was infatuation, it may lead to a separation or even a stronger link with our love because now there is understanding. So now , let’s consider that we break up and find another love, will we make the same mistakes as before? Our understanding of what really love is or involves has broadened! But I really will like to believe that no matter what happens through the passing years, we may never be able to fully forget our first love….that person who was able to awaken our sleeping hearts to a dazzling world of learning to love, even though it may just have been infatuation! As the saying goes, first love never really dies!

Once we are alive , we experience pain. From the time we are born to the time we expire, there is pain! We feel physical pain maybe because of an accident..or by someone deliberately hurting us. Sometimes we undergo surgery and then here comes the master of pain…physical therapy! When doing that , we feel tremendous pain as if our lives are being taken away from us but it is for our own well being. Some people endure the full course while some quit! We cannot criticize those who leave because we don’t know their pain and how much they can handle. Of course, we are given pain medication , but how much does it help? So apart from the physical pain, there is also the emotional stress! Probably we cannot afford the basics of life , or loss of a loved one , or being rejected in love . Whatever the case maybe, we feel that hurt…we cannot focus on simple things. We seek the help of specialists! Does that help? Only those who have experienced that can answer! What about trying to help ourselves by doing something on our own. Be it physical or emotional, let’s focus on something entirely different ….something beautiful…something relaxing. We are not concentrating on our pain, but our thoughts are elsewhere. Let’s leave the pain behind, and move to greener pastures, so to speak! We try not to be aware of that intense pressure, but project our thoughts away from it….one day at a time. Then again, instead of making pain our enemy, let us befriend it!